Tuesday, March 29, 2011

One Year

Today marks one year since we began this adoption journey. I think back to where I was exactly one year ago today, and realize I am forever changed.

The story I believed I was living was that of a fertility challenged mom, hoping to bring a baby home. I believed that adoption was my backup to growing our family. Yet somehow I knew, even in the heartache of infertility, that God was working on me, and my heart. God had something so much bigger planned ahead.

I think back exactly one year ago today, and smile. I smile at what I know is in store for that girl. So much growth, joy, change, passion, strength, and newness to come over that year. Yes, and overwhelming heartache, challenges, and pain too.

Boy, what a year it has been.

A year I wouldn't change for anything.

One year ago today, I would think that we would be close to bringing our infant girl home from Ethiopia.

Now I know we may have another year ahead of us. And it may not be a baby coming home, but a toddler.

One year ago today, I believed I had experienced true heartache over infertility.

Now I know that my true heartache is grieving the faces of children all over the world who are sick, in pain, lonely, hungry, hopeless, and parentless. The sobs I have cried over those innocent children will never compare.

One year ago today life was about me.

Now I know what it feels like to die to myself, and find freedom in giving to others.

One year ago today I wanted another child to love.

Now I know that it is more than loving that child, and more about loving and advocating for millions.


Looking back in the rear view mirror I have never felt more alive than I have over this past year. A yo-yo of emotions, ups and downs, pitfalls, and unknowns.

But around every corner was God. His love surrounding this journey, guiding our path to our daughter.

Had I known the story of this past year ahead of time, I might have said "no." I might have been too scared, too stretched, and too uncomfortable.

I'm so thankful I didn't say no. I wouldn't trade this year for a hundred of not knowing what I know now. Yes, forever changed and so grateful for this journey.


Thank you to all my family and friends for holding my hand over this past year. I couldn't have done it without you.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Pregnancy and adoption

Someone told me this weekend that basically I'm "pregnant" right now in that we are in our fourth month on the waiting list. I never really thought of it that way, but we have an estimated 5-8 months left of waiting for our referral. Hopefully those months of waiting fly by!

The more I consider it, the more I'm amazed at the similarities this adoption journey has to those of my experiences being pregnant with Oliver. In the beginning of both my pregnancy and adoption I wanted a baby.....then it evolved to wanting the baby I am "pregnant" with. Feeling the indescribable bond to that little life that you haven't even seen yet.

But knowing the whole time that they are there...and that they are yours.

Although the physical part of being pregnant is challenging.....morning sickness, headaches, getting really huge, pain and discomfort, it doesn't even come close to the longing I feel for my girl in Ethiopia.

The aching in my heart at times is so consuming and genuine for this little one. See, there is real pain involved in adoption too!

When you are physically pregnant, the outside world knows you are preparing for your new addition. That a new life will be joining you, and changing you and your family forever. It's hard to show the outside world how you feel in your heart with adoption.

So, I'm showing off my "ultrasound" picture.......



And telling the world how I'm feeling these days:

Friday, March 18, 2011

Official Number.....

It was a surprise for me to see so much movement this month! So happy to know that children are still coming into families despite everything that has been going on.

Our official March number is:




Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Latest.....

This past week I have found myself walking around with a bit of a heavy heart. I have spent hours thinking about the "what ifs" and contemplating what our family would do if our adoption was delayed by years.


Everyone's sweet emails, texts, and words of support have been so appreciated! Thank you for lifting me up when I have been feeling a bit down.

This morning I woke up and made the decision to give all my worries away. Just as God holds each of us, he holds our little girl in Ethiopia. A little girl who's face I haven't seen, but grow to love more and more each day. There is so much comfort for me in knowing that God is so much bigger than any of the obstacles we will face in this journey.

And with that I found even more encouragement. Here is the latest from our adoption agency.


Ethiopia Program Update



As you know, over the past week AGCI has been working in collaboration with Joint Council, other licensed Adoption Service Providers in Ethiopia and the US Department of State to get clarity on the proposed changes instigated by the Ministry of Women’s Affairs that would have drastically reduced the number of adoptions processed by their office.

We have spent the entirety of this week and last connecting with our own Foreign Staff, participating in caucus calls led by Joint Council and the US Department of State, and independently collaborating with other Adoption Service Providers to get clear and accurate information concerning this matter. Your grace and patience has been so appreciated during this time! What we know as facts are:

MOWA posted a notice indicating as of March 10th they would be reducing the number of adoptions processed through their office to 5 cases a day.

Within days of this announcement, the director of MOWA and several other staff members from the ministry have been terminated.
Today we want to update you on the feedback we received yesterday from our foreign staff in Ethiopia, which was confirmed in a discussion with our adoption colleagues in a Joint Council caucus call later in the day.

At this time, all Foreign Staff on the ground in Ethiopia are reporting that MOWA has completed their staffing changes and are now currently working at full capacity to complete those adoption cases currently re-scheduled or assigned a court appointment through the courts of Addis Ababa. Our staff believe this to be around 800 cases they are working at full force to complete with no restrictions on the number of cases processed each day. This is great news! We are thrilled to hear these drastic changes do not seem to be going into full effect.

We are also pleased to report that for new cases moving forward; it appears the original changes proposed by MOWA will not be implemented to the degree of 5 cases a day. At this time it is unknown whether or not MOWA will issue a formal statement regarding how they will process cases in the future, but from all discussions it will not be a drastic decrease from before. Through the continued work, meetings, and advocacy of many Foreign Staff members in Ethiopia, it appears any future changes within the case processing for MOWA will avoid sweeping and disproportionate alterations to the number of cases processed each day. Rather, the hope is that MOWA, Joint Council, Adoption Service Providers, the US Department of State and other NGO organizations can come together to support the government of Ethiopia in strengthening the process for ethical adoptions to continue while also improving the general social structures to assist with family preservation in Ethiopia. This plan was acknowledged in the recent posting by the US State Department this morning at http://adoption.state.gov/news/ethiopia.html. We understand the US Department of State cannot issue a formal statement without MOWA issuing a retraction. Based on the information we are receiving, MOWA is concentrating on processing the current adoptions and the new staff is not focused on numbers, but doing their jobs.

AGCI and our trusted colleagues look forward to collaborating to ensure adoptions move forward with the highest level of transparency possible. It is our commitment to carefully, ethically, and mindfully complete the adoption process on every level for orphaned children. Our hope is that as we do this in collaboration with other licensed agencies, we can also help to eliminate future concerns by MOWA and continue to build trust between their office and the adoption community at large.

Despite all this talk and discussion about proposed changes, we want to share with you some highlights from just the past two weeks in our program. Even in the midst of all these proposed changes we have seen things move in positive directions:

7 children were referred to their forever families (wait time for a referral for our most recently placed families was approximately 10 months for an infant boy and for an infant girl)
9 families and children were issued their first official court date
3 families and children were approved at a rescheduled court appointment
1 family and child was approved on their first scheduled court appointment
9 families and 10 children were cleared by the US Embassy and invited to travel to Ethiopia to complete their final immigration visa appointment and bring their children.
2 children have returned home with their forever families.

As you can see from above, our attention over the past week and this week has been not only on gathering information on this issue but also on processing adoptions for many of the children at Hannah’s Hope. We will be calling each of you to check in for your monthly updates, paperwork calls, and to connect with those of you who are already referred and in the court process.

We want to encourage you all and to share that Ethiopia is still an active adoption program! We are so blessed to be looking back at all these wonderful moments and see God’s hand at work in the stories and lives of these children He loves. Thank you for your continued passion and dedication. We look forward to all the wonderful moments yet to come as we continue to serve in Ethiopia!

Doesn't that sound promising for the millions of children in Ethiopia waiting to find their forever families? Continue praying with me for these children and for the government of Ethiopia.

As soon as I find out our new monthly waiting list number, I will post it!

Friday, March 11, 2011

A Call To Action

Please spread this news to your friends, family, church, etc. As I checked the petition last, only 32,000 have signed the so far.


Please sign this petition to encourage the Ethiopian Ministry of Women's, Children's, and Youth Affairs to reconsider its new policy to review only five adoption applications each day. 250,000 signatures are needed this weekend.

MOWA has implemented this new policy change so that it may spend more time reviewing each file and focusing on the children who are not eligible for adoption. Despite MOWA's good intentions, this new policy significantly harms the very children it seeks to protect.

Impact on Orphans: On a conference call this morning, the U.S. State Department said that MOWA now has 800 - 1,000 files pending, and confirmed that parents with open court files should expect a 12-month delay, with file reviews cut back to 5 per day. With an average of 20 files approved each day prior to this policy, this slowdown will have a snowball effect. By April, the file backlog will be 1,300+. By the end of the year, the backlog will be over 4,000, unless families begin to drop out of the Ethiopian adoption program (which is likely to happen at alarming rates). At least one agency is saying that children who are ethically eligible for adoption may now expect to wait in institutions over five years after a family has offered to provide a loving home.


What to expect if this new policy remains in place: it will be a difference of bringing a baby home at six months old, to instead bringing a child home at 5 years old. Spending that many years in institutional care will have a profound negative impact on these children for the rest of their lives, and many children who are otherwise eligible for adoption will never have a forever family. This new policy will also jeopardize the ability of adoption service providers to continue their donation of orphan care and family preservation assistance to the 1.2 million vulnerable individuals who were helped in 2010 (beyond the 4,000 children who were adopted), and will overburden already struggling orphanages, who will begin to turn away children who need help because they have no beds available.

Note: as foreign adoptions in Ethiopia have increased (to the U.S., from virtually none in 1990 to 1,724 in 2008), infant mortality has decreased from 12% in 1990 to 7% in 2008 and under-5 (including infant) mortality has decreased from 21% in 1990 to 11% in 2008 (see U.S. Department of State statistics and UNICEF report). Intuitively, there is some correlation between these numbers, as orphanages have had more room and resources available to care for the most vulnerable children.

(Much) Better Alternatives: The adoption community absolutely supports taking steps to ensure that each child is protected and every adoption is ethical as well as the best available option for the child. There are better ways to do this, however, the most obvious being to increase resources rather than decrease reviews. If MOWA needs to increase its personnel tenfold to continue to thoroughly and timely review files, it may charge a file processing fee to cover the costs accordingly (significant processing fees are already paid by adoptive parents to the state and U.S. government). This fee could not begin to be as much as it will cost families to pay for institutional care of their child for years, and it could be used to help fund in-depth file investigation as well as ongoing care for the children who remain in orphanages. This alternative would help ensure that children who are ethically eligible for adoption are brought home sooner rather than later, and that their situations are made better rather than worse by the system that is supposed to be helping them.

How You May Help: We are all called by God to “Defend the cause of the fatherless” (Isaiah 1:17). We pray that God through us will change the hearts of these leaders. Please:

1. Sign the petition to the Prime Minister of Ethiopia.

2. Share. Please send this Call to Action to family members, other adoptive parents, and everyone you know! Post, forward and share your adoption stories via Facebook, Twitter, and blogs. Include it in your email blasts, church bulletin, church website, and announce it from the pulpit THIS SUNDAY, March 13th.

We need to get at least 250,000 people to sign this petition by Monday. As our agency wrote, "If you have been adopted by God, and understand the unmerited favor and love that His adoption delivers, PLEASE TAKE ONE MINUTE to answer His call to be a voice for the voiceless, to defend the cause of these Ethiopian orphans."

Shared via Withlovingarms.blogspot.com, an adoptive mama.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Emergency Campaign For Ethiopia

Many in the adoptive community have heard this past week of an article that sent shock waves through our core.


Read it here.


I am stunned by the recent news from the Ethiopian government that they are decreasing adoptions by up to 90 percent, effective this week. Not only is this a scary time for our family, and the many other families waiting to bring their children home into a safe, permanent, loving family, but this decision will have severe and lasting impact on the children of Ethiopia. It is my understanding that the Ethiopian government receives approximately $2-3,000 per adoption. Where money is exchanged, the chance for corruption may occur.

I understand that the Ethiopian government feels compelled to make such a drastic change in their policy in order to implement ethical and legal adoptions and to prevent child trafficking. I would feel devastated to think that somewhere down the line my child was tricked into being placed for adoption. But, I feel that the individuals involved in the trafficking should be punished, not the entire population of children who need a permanent home. These children may end up institutionalized for up to 7 years. Not only will this decision impact children, but hotels, restaurant owners, tourist events, and the marketplace. A drastic cut from 4,000 adoptions worldwide a year to only 500.


Will you help? Here is how:

Click here to go to their website which I have cut and pasted below:

1) Sign the petition to the Prime Minister of Ethiopia, Meles Zenawi – and pass it on!

2) Have you adopted from Ethiopia? Please send us up to 3 photos and 50 words or less with what you would like the Ministry to know about your child – we’ll compile the information and send a book to the Ministry of Woman’s, Children’s and Youth Affairs. Send your photos and stories to advocate@jointcouncil.org by Sunday, March 12, 2011 to be included. Please note that sending photos and stories gives Joint Council unrestricted right to use the information you provide.

3) Share…Please send this Call to Action to family members, other adoptive parents, and everyone you know! Post, forward and share your adoption stories via Facebook, Twitter, and blogs. Make sure you include us in your posts so we can all hear your stories! Here’s links to our pages: Facebook, Twitter and our blog.

4) Stay informed: Get up-to-date information regarding the situation in Ethiopia by signing up to receive information from us: click here to do so, make sure you choose “country and issues specific information” and “Ethiopia.” And don’t forget to follow us on Facebook, Twitter and our blog

5) Help ensure our advocacy can continue: Joint Council is a non-profit and receives no government funding. Please join us in ensuring more children live in safe, permanent and loving families. Donate today!


PRAY, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!!
As you can imagine this is a huge blow. It is not 100% at this point so please pray with us for the children that could be affected. This is devastating news if this is to come about. We don't even know what this would mean for our adoption process.

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